In my last note, I talked about the various reasons that we mothers find it hard to settle into and enjoy the crumbs of alone time we get (and how our personal inadequacy is not one of them). I believe that this is a critical and potent time in history, when so much is being revealed and illuminated, both around and within us, and that we have a ton to gain as mothers, in the long run, if we can stay focused on the following:
Allow me to block that second arrow for you…
You’re not sabotaging your alone time, mama. You’re doing the best you can under seriously suboptimal circumstances. The fact that it’s hard to meet your needs right now doesn’t mean you’re not worthy of having them met, and it certainly doesn’t mean your big dreams aren’t worth dreaming.
You are so worthy, and your dreams are absolutely worth dreaming (even if, for a time, they are constantly interrupted).
We can’t always control being hit by the first arrows of life. But by refusing to launch second arrows at ourselves, we dramatically decrease the number of wounds we’re operating from, which preserves more of our strength for creating a world where first arrows are less prevalent, too.
With fierce love and tender reverence for all you mamas everywhere,