You are deserving of personal space, mama.
You are worthy of time away from your family, even if you’re attachment parenting. No, ESPECIALLY if you’re attachment parenting, your need to NOT be attached for stretches of time, matters.
Attachment parenting is a beautiful thing, AND our children are meant to be attaching to several people within the “village,” not just the one or two adults in our homes.
No single nervous system is meant to handle such a relentless load.
Looking back, one of the things that led to my self-abandonment when my kids were little, was my belief that, because we were so beautifully and deeply connected, and because they so clearly needed me, that it was my responsibility to value that attachment above every other sacred thing in the world.
And while I still see that bond as one of the most sacred things in the world, my relationship with myself has since taken the #1 seat.
Self-abandoning, even in the seeming best interest of those we love most, is not sustainable, nor good for anyone, our children included.
Dear super invested, super intentional, beautifully attached mother: if you long to have a corner of the house that NO ONE gets to touch without your permission, please make it happen for yourself.
Give yourself that permission.
If you are DYING for an hour away every day, please get creative and meet that need.
I know it’s not easy (hell, it wasn’t even easy before Covid) AND the worthiness piece is often the biggest obstacle.
We train our families to depend on us solely for their every need and it IS POSSIBLE to retrain them.
Modeling for them how to support and protect wholeness is not easy the way our society is structured, but it’s no less important than forming strong attachments.
You are worthy, you are worthy, you are worthy,